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As a married woman in my 40s, juggling family, a business, and a relationship that sometimes gets put on the back burner, I’m always looking for ways to keep my marriage strong. Prioritize Us by Nick Brancato caught my eye because, let’s be real—life’s demands can easily push a partnership to the sidelines. Brancato’s book offers a refreshingly straightforward yet deeply insightful approach to relationship alignment, and I found myself nodding along to many of the examples he lays out.
At its core, Prioritize Us is about how couples can better understand each other’s life priorities and use that awareness to create a healthier, more intentional relationship. It introduces the “Total Difference Score” (TDS), a test designed to reveal where each partner’s values align and where they might be pulling in different directions. From finances and career ambitions to family time and emotional connection, Brancato walks readers through the process of identifying priorities, comparing them with their partner’s, and having the crucial conversations needed to realign.
One thing I truly appreciate about this book is how accessible it is. There’s no lofty, unrealistic relationship advice here—just practical, research-backed insights on how minor misalignments (like one person wanting a quiet weekend at home while the other craves adventure) can slowly create resentment over time. Brancato doesn’t just diagnose the problem—he provides a clear, step-by-step system to help couples navigate these conflicts with understanding rather than frustration.
For anyone who’s ever argued about money, parenting styles, or even how to spend free time, Prioritize Us offers a new lens to view those tensions. Rather than seeing them as fundamental incompatibilities, Brancato encourages couples to recognize them as differences in priorities that can be discussed and adjusted—not deal-breakers, but opportunities for deeper connection.
I found the book’s emphasis on evolving priorities particularly valuable. My husband and I have changed so much since our early years together, and this book reminded me that relationships aren’t about staying the same—they’re about growing together with intention.
Would I recommend Prioritize Us? Absolutely. Whether you’re newly married, parenting young kids, or trying to reconnect after years of drifting apart, this book offers a concrete, actionable strategy to keep your relationship on track. It’s not about avoiding disagreements—it’s about understanding why they happen in the first place and working as a team to stay aligned. A must-read for any couple looking to strengthen their partnership.